A Dozen Different Ways to use the Bullet

Here are 12 different ways to use the Bullet. Can you think of other ways to use it?

1. First and foremost, the Silver Bullet works great alone for masturbation. The statistics say that 90% of women have 95% of their orgasms through clitoral stimulation. This is the perfect toy for that! Also it is a great toy for women to use to train themselves to have multiple orgasms.
2. If you take that logic and apply it to the guys in our lives, men can use it alone for testicle stimulation, too. I am willing to bet there's also a quite few men out there that also stimulate the head and the shaft with the innocent little Silver Bullet. (We hear from guys with ED that they often use the Silver Bullet for help with ejaculation.)
3. I have heard of women inserting the Silver Bullet for vaginal, anal and G-Spot stimulation. The best and safest way to do this is to place the bullet inside a condom to ensure that everything remains clean and hygenic.
4. One of the most "Efficient" ways to use the Silver Bullet is in conjunction with giving Oral Sex to your male partner. If you're interested in cutting down the time it takes to help your partner climax through Oral Sex, bust out the Silver Bullet. Turn it on low and put the low vibration on his testicles while you're giving him Oral. I can almost guarantee that it will take a 15 minute blow job and cut it down to about 5 minutes. (Sorry guys. Men do not like to hear the word "efficient" and blow job in the same sentence.)
5. Gentlemen, the same is true for giving her Oral Sex. If you want to be sure she's had an orgasm, incorporate the Silver Bullet into your Cunnilingus repertoire. (The really small little bullets work great for this type of play.)
6. It's not for everyone, but many people insert the Silver Bullet into the female partner anally while they are making love or while they are performing Oral Sex on her. (We recommend you put a condom on it before any anal play that way it's nice and easy to clean and it's more easily retrieved.) Imagine the extra vibration you will both feel during intercourse.
7. You probably already know where I am going with this one. Many people insert the Silver Bullet into their male partner's rectum for anal vibration for the male partner. (I am sure some men do this when they're alone as well. See Point #2.) The vibration can stimulate the Prostate Gland – also known as the "A" spot or the "P" spot or the male G Spot.
8. Don't forget the nipples. The Silver Bullet works great for Nipple stimulation on your male partner or female partner. (Some studies have shown you may be able to teach or train yourself to have an orgasm from nipple stimulation.)
9. Use your Silver Bullet in conjunction with a massage. Some of the massage mitts have room for a Silver Bullet in between your hand and the mitt to allow for the bullet inside. Give your partner a little extra zing when you give them their next massage.
10. When you're having intercourse and you're on top, put the Silver Bullet on your clitoris between your partner and you so that you can press your clitoris against the bullet while you're on top. Many orgasms to be had this way!
11. Same holds true for doggy style sex (he reaches around and puts it on your clitoris) or if you get on top "reverse cowgirl" you can hold it between your clitoris and his testicles so you both feel the extra electricity. While you're lying on your back, hold the Silver Bullet against your clitoris as you have sex missionary style. You get the benefit of a clitoral orgasm while he's on top. Plus, he feels the extra vibration and it provides a new sensation for both of you.
12. I almost forgot….keep a Silver Bullet in your glove compartment. Next time you get stuck in traffic or in a snow storm, you'll have your trusty and reliable Silver Bullet to keep you warm or to reduce your road rage!

Don't forget that with any $100 purchase from Bella's Pleasures you'll receive a FREE wireless, waterproof bullet!

Ten Mistakes Women Make When Having Sex

You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there's a lot less information - and opinion - on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here's a list of ten things for women to avoid.

1. Expecting him to think like a woman
   We've all seen loads of books with titles like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don't think the same way - and while we're not going to get into why this happens, it's important to remember that fact when you're in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don't see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can't. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn't feeling romantic and connected to his partner. For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn't need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that's what women don't understand. They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don't appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex - or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.
2. Not showing your sexual energy
   Women who were brought up to be demure "good girls" (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex. But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion - whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.
3. Being too gentle when you touch his penis
   Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you'll see how much pressure he uses on his penis - especially as he nears orgasm. If you're doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you're doing right and what he'd like done differently. He'll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.
4. Not experimenting with sex
   The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour - or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that's an exaggeration, but it isn't much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it's true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they're not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time - about the things they see, what they'd like to do, how they'd like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it's not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy. It doesn't have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you've never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay - or even during the main event. Seduce him into a "quickie" by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you'd like to do to him later that day.....well, you get the idea - use your imagination!
5. Expecting him to read your mind
   Yes, we know it's difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don't think like women. They don't read clues, they don't get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he'll know exactly what he's supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he's doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.
6. Criticizing him
   I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they've never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it - and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk - they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them. Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met - but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you've begun to understand that your man won't know what you want unless you tell him. If you're judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I'm afraid you aren't likely to be very satisfied. And it won't be his fault.
7. Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm
   A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to "give" a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that's how a lot of us were brought up - that a man somehow has to look after "his" woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex.....but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don't make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.
8. Controlling him by withdrawing sex
   One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don't want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don't feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)
9. Thinking he'll feel the same way about your body that you do
   It just isn't so. Men don't attach the judgments to women's bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won't matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won't be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you're completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he'll never give it a second thought. It's women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.
10. Not making up with sex after an argument
    Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they've had an argument, but in fact many more don't. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I've met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again. Even if you don't feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that's talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track - just go to bed together!
    

What's your love and sex sign?

According to the e-mail I received these are true descriptions of zodiac signs, with traits from a book written 35 years ago by an astrologist. Forgive me but the descriptions don't sound like something that was written 35 years ago. I found them entertaining though and thought I'd share them with you all!

TAURUS: The Tramp Aggressive
Freak in bed. Rare to find! Loves being in long relationships.. Likes to give a good fight for what they want. Extremely outgoing. Sexy as hell! Loves to help people in times of need. Outstanding kisser. Very funny. Awesome personality. Stubborn. Most caring person you will ever meet! One of a kind. Not one to fuck with. Are the sexiest people on earth!

VIRGO: The Virgin
Dominant in relationships. Sexy. Someone loves them right now. Freak in bed. Always wants the last word. Caring. Smart. Intellectual. Attractive. Loud.. Loyal. Easy to talk to. Hard to forget Love at first sight. Everything you ever wanted. Easy to please. The one and only. Ultimate sexiness.

SCORPIO: The sex addict
Can be mean. EXTREMELY sexy. Intelligent. Energetic. Predict future. Most erotic. (Freak in bed.) (GREAT kisser.) Always get what they want. Sexy. Attractive. Easy going. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. The sexiest ever....Romantic. Caring.

LIBRA: The Lover
Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique sexiness. Most caring person you will ever meet! Amazing n Bed!!! Did I say Amazing in Bed? Not the kind of person you wanna fuck with... you might end up crying... the most irresistible.

ARIES: The Liar
Outgoing. Lovable. Spontaneous. Again, not one to fuck with. Erotic. Funny. Take you on trips to the moon in bed. Excellent kisser EXTREMELY sexy. Loves being in long relationships. Addictive. Loud. Best in bed.

AQUARIUS: Does it in the water
Trustworthy. Sexy. Great kisser. One of a kind. Loves being in long-term relationships. Extremely energetic. Unpredictable. Will exceed your expectations. Not a Fighter, But will Knock your lights out. Amazing in bed, THE BEST LOVERS BETTER THAN EVERYONE!

GEMINI: Does Twosomes
Nice. Love is one of a kind. Great listeners Very Good in bed. Lover not a fighter, but will still knock you the fuck out. Trustworthy. Always happy. Loud. Talkative. Outgoing VERY FORGIVING. Loves to make out. Has a beautiful smile. Generous. Strong. ULTRA SEXY. THE MOST IRRESISTIBLE.

LEO: The Lion in bed
Great talker. Sexy and passionate. Laid back. Knows how to have fun. Is really good at. Great kisser. Unpredictable. Outgoing. Down to earth. Addictive. Attractive. Loud. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Not one to mess with. Rare to find. Good when found.

CANCER: The Cutie
MOST AMAZING KISSER. Very high sex appeal. Great in bed!!! Love is one of a kind. Very romantic. Most caring person you will ever meet! Entirely creative. Extremely random and proud of it. Freak in bed. Spontaneous. Great telling stories. Not a Fighter, but will knock your lights out if it comes down to it. Someone you should hold on to.

PISCES: The Piece of Ass
Caring and kind. Smart. Center of attention. Too Sexy, DAMN IT. Very high sex appeal. Has the last word. The best to find, hardest to keep. Fun to be around. Freak in the sheets. Extremely weird but in a good way. SUPER good in bed. Good Sense of Humor!!! Thoughtful. A partner for life. Always gets what he or she wants. Loves to joke. Very popular. Silly, fun and sweet.

CAPRICORN: The passionate Lover
Love to bust. Nice. Sassy. Intelligent. Sexy. Predict future. Irresistible, awesome kisser. Loves being in long relationships. Great talker. Always gets what he or she wants. BY FAR the BEST in BED. Very sexy. Coolest. Loves to own Gemini's in sports. Extremely fun. Loves to joke. Loves to be your first. So you'll never forget. Smart. 24 years of bad luck if>you do not repost.

SAGITTARIUS: The Sexy one
Spontaneous. Horny. Freak in Bed. High appeal. Rare to find. Great when found. Loves being in long relationships. The one. So much love to give. Not one to mess with. Very pretty. Very romantic. Nice to everyone they meet. Their Love is one of a kind. Silly, fun and sweet. Have own unique sexiness. Most caring person you will ever meet! Amazing in Bed!!! Did I say Amazing in Bed? Not the kind of person you wanna mess with you might end up crying.

Never Too Old for Toys

Thanksgiving is upon us, and that means winter break is right around the corner. For a lot of us, it’s the gift-exchanging time of the year. So what’s on your list this year? Adult toys perhaps? For many of us, the world of adult toys is foreign and it can be hard to find the right purchase with so many options out there. So I thought I’d give you the quick version of Sex Toys 101, with a focus on vibrators.

When one says “vibrator” the first thing that comes to mind for a lot of people is the multifunction vibrator—the Rabbit. It’s famous for making an appearance in “Sex and the City” when the character Charlotte becomes addicted to the vibrator and refuses to leave her house. Let me just note here that although worries about addiction to sex toys and not wanting “real” sexual encounters are common, they are not true. A plastic toy cannot replace post-orgasm spooning and kisses; vibrators and dildos are no substitute for the real thing—they’re something to enhance your sex life. Also, vibrators are not just for girls. Believe me, there have been guys who’ve gotten off on foot massagers.

If you have never seen one, the Rabbit is pretty overwhelming at first. It’s made of colorful rubber material and consists of a penis-shaped shaft that contains rotating beads or pearls that stimulates the G-spot. The head of the shaft swivels and, on top of all that, the bunny rabbit sits at the base of the vibrator to tickle the clit with its ears. It is intense, complicated and usually not recommended for beginners. Some only end up using the tickling ears, which seems to me like a waste of 70-some dollars.

An interesting fact I recently learned about the Rabbit is that it originated in Japan, where there are laws prohibiting the sale of “realistic” sex toys. If you’ve ever wondered why some vibrators have faces on them or are in the shape of an animal, it’s because of this law. Kinda weird, but whatever.

Let’s talk about what is recommended for beginners. Think simple! You want to pick out something that is easy to use and easy to clean. Because beginners don’t know what intensity they enjoy, and you obviously can’t try these items out at the store, it’s recommended that first-timers get something with adjustable intensity. And in general, adjustable or not, electric vibrators are stronger than battery-operated ones, which is reflected in the price.

In terms of cleaning, it is advised that you put a condom on your sex toy, especially if you’re inserting it. You might think, “Why? I’m not sharing it with anyone.” But putting on a condom is protecting you from bacteria. If not cleaned properly, bacteria can grow, and I don’t think you want to insert that back into yourself. The materials that are easier to clean are plastic, glass, silicone and acrylic. Definitely use a condom with the more porous dildos and vibrators, like rubber and cyberskin.

You should clean plastic toys with a toy cleaner and pay them dry with a soft, lint-free cloth. With silicone or glass toys that don't vibrate or have electric parts, you can actually put them in boiling water, or even in the top rack of your dishwasher. Oil and silicone-based lube can damage these toys, so stick with water-based lube.

A newer type of vibrator that is popular is one that cups the vulva while stimulating the complete genital area, like the LayaSpot. They tend to be more “pretty” and don’t look like sex toys. Other types of discreet vibrators are the Tiny Touch and Fukuoku 9000(slips on your finger); these also tend to be cheaper and portable.

Finally, remember not to expect a life-changing experience with a new toy. There are a lot of people who rave about their purchase, but there are no guarantees. Talking to friends who already have one and asking lots of questions before buying are good ways to go. Don’t be deceived by the “quietness” when you turn on the demo at the store—trust me, it’s much louder in a quiet home (silicone toys tend to be quieter). My recent purchase of a vibrating cock ring was a complete flop—it tickles more than anything! I laughed uncontrollably at what sounded like my Sonicare toothbrush. Now it’s just sitting in my drawer. I should’ve listened to my own advice, and bought something with an intensity adjuster like the Ecstasy Pulsator.

Article by Akiko Ezuka

Product Review: Ecstasy Pulsator

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-Kelly T., New Jersey

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Free Viagra sparks romance in small Brazilian town

"Since we started the free distribution of sexual stimulants, our elderly population changed. They're much happier."

The mayor of a small town in Brazil says his elderly constituents are much happier ever since he started handing out free Viagra through a program titled "Pinto Alegre" in Portuguese, or "Happy Penis" in English.

Joao de Souza Luz, mayor of Novo Santo Antonio, in the central state of Mato Grosso, said 68 men over the age of 60 had already signed up for the program, which was approved by the town's legislature.

"Since we started the free distribution of sexual stimulants, our elderly population changed. They're much happier," said Souza Luz.

But the program has also had the unforeseen consequence of encouraging some extra-marital affairs, Souza Luz said. "Some of the old men aren't seeking out their wives. They've got romances on the side," he explained..

Souza Luz said the city had decided to begin distributing the Viagra pills to the wives of the men who signed up for the program as a way to prevent extra-marital affairs. "That way, when the women are in the mood, they can give the pills to their husbands," he said.

I have to wonder if this is the same Brazillian town that proclaimed "Orgasm Day" last year. If so, I think I want to move to Brazil!

10 Ideas to keep the Romance alive during the Holidays

When we have been in a relationship for a while the romance seems to dwindle and both parties in the relationship think that the other should be more romantic. During the holidays, with all of the obligations and things on your to-do list, making time for your partner can be especially difficult.

Think back to when you first met. The first dates, wining and dining, making an effort to look your best, breakfast in bed, long weekends having frantic sex. Don't you wish it was the same? Well I bet your partner also does. Instead of waiting for him to make the first move (after all we know how slow men are. No offence guys) you take the lead and add a bit of romance into your relationship.

Here are ten ways to show off your romantic side.

1. Pick up the phone: Give him a ring while he is at the office just to let him know that you are thinking of him. Or if you are confident with phone sex tell him what you are going to do to him once he gets home and in turn what you would like him to do to you.

2. Fill the stocking: This Christmas create a special "sexy" stocking for him to open when the two of you are alone. Perhaps you can start a new tradition of opening this special stocking on Christmas Eve after the kids are in bed. Visit Bella's Pleasures for some sexy stocking stuffer ideas like our Shunga Chocolate Body Paint or Caress Me Candles!

3. Feed his heart: You know the old saying the way to a mans heart is through his stomach! Well you better believe it because it works every time. Get out the best dinner set set the table with candles, put on some soft music and prepare his favorite meal. You won't even need to think of dessert because this is where he will become romantic and Wisk you of to the bedroom.

4. Flirt: When was the last time you actually flirted with your partner? Go out in public (to dinner, to a holiday party or stop off at a nightclub) and try it. It will boost both your egos bring back those old feelings of lust for one an other. Think like a single person and see what happens

5. Bedroom boudoir: Set the mood in your bedroom. Clear out all the clutter, change the bed linen (bring in some silk sheets perhaps or for a more affordable option try Silky Sheets from Bella's Pleasures) and fill the room with our Caress Me Candles for an amazing scent and a fabulous warm massage! Stand a bottle of your favorite bubbly in some ice, lay your sexiest lingerie on the bed and keep some Shunga Chocolate Body Paint near by. This is also an inexpensive way to give your bedroom a new look.

6. Use toys: If you want to add some spice to your love making then what better way then to introduce some props. We are not talking about 12" dildos (unless you want to that is) it can be something as small as a silk scarf or as daring as vibrators. Your man will need never be asked to make an effort again. For a toy that won't leave him feeling inadequate but will rock your world try our Ecstasy Pulsator.

7. Watch a flick: Rent a romantic movie, order a take away, get out a bottle of your favorite wine, take the phone of the hook turn out the lights and snuggle into each other on the sofa in front of the TV. The romantic flick will soon have the two of you in the mood for love.

8. Love letters: Leave him little notes in his pocket, on his pillow, next to his mother any where that he will find them that will give him a nice surprise.

9. Kiss.. him all of his body slowly. For more information on sensual ways to use your mouth check out Kiss of Desire.

10. Three little words: Tell him that you love him at least once a day. This will keep the love there even if you haven't always got time to express it, those 3 little words is all that you need.

Adapted from HerOnlineNetwork.com